Sunday 17 October 2021



I was thinking this morning...... about the 'Bestie Syndrome'. I am sure many of you are wondering what this is. By definition,  'Bestie' means best friend or BFF. We call it 'pally' or paddy-paddy in Warri. A syndrome on the other hand is a condition characterized by a set of associated symptoms. The 'Bestie Syndrome' is a psychosocial disease that makes a man to drop his guard when with someone he regards as his best friend.

A man's bestie can be from his social circle, office, religious group or even his family. Some of the symptoms of 'Bestie Syndrome' include unbridled trust, revealing your secrets and never judging. It's a lovely thing to have a bestie but a dangerous thing to suffer from 'Bestie Syndrome.'

Days ago, news broke of a guy that went out with his bestie to an eatery at a mall. Mid way, he left his drink he had ordered to go use the washroom. As he left, his bestie was seen poisoning the drink. A good Samaritan observed it and told the lucky guy not to drink from it. The bestie was then asked to drink from the same drink he had poisoned, he refused and started begging for forgiveness. Why would the friend leave his drink in the company of another? It is because he trust him as his bestie. He almost died not because he had a bestie but because he was suffering from 'Bestie Syndrome.'

In September 2021, news broke of a young Nigerian, Toritseju Emmanuel Jackson, a law graduate of Buckingham University UK, that had returned to Nigeria for the mandatory one year call to bar programme at Law School. Toritseju was found stabbed to death by yet to be identified persons in the early hours of Sunday, September 12, 2021, in Wuse Zone 4, Abuja, after he was lured out by his friend. Why would Toritseju step out of his home that night to the location where he was murdered? It was because someone he trusted, a bestie, had invited him. He did not die because he had a bestie, he died because he suffered from 'Bestie Syndrome.'

It is great to have a bestie but please look at everyone with 'gbejoro eye,' meaning everyone is a suspect until proven otherwise. Do not be careless with your life because the hustle is real. The rat race we are in can make people do anything to anyone. I can understand the motive when someone kills his brother because he wants to inherit his property, but will never understand why people kill their besties knowing fully well they can't inherit their wealth, wife or years.

Hmm! After reading Psalms 41:9 that says 'Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me,' I understood that 'Bestie Syndrome' is a sibling of '419 disease' or 'Judas Effect.'

Do not let down your guard or be a victim of 'Bestie Syndrome.' God no go shame us.

Stay hopeful. God's got your back.

Happy Sunday.

......Just the thoughts of a certain Wey Mey

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