WHEN A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IS WIDOWED

 

I was thinking this morning… Recently, my wife engaged a professional to review the social media performance of her business. The audit revealed clear gaps and offered practical recommendations. She shared the report with the staff responsible for digital marketing—hoping it would inspire improvement.

Instead, the staff member resigned, insisting she was not being appreciated. After attempts to persuade her failed, the role was advertised. Within weeks, a new hire stepped in—and immediately delivered superior results.

As my wife reflected on how quickly things turned around, a familiar Nigerian saying came to mind: “When a beautiful or blessed woman is widowed, the elders waste no time in burying her husband.” In other words, life moves on… quickly. The lessons from this experience echoed during my department's team bonding event days later.

First, not everyone is meant to sail with the team forever. In life and leadership, people play different roles. Some are propellers—they drive momentum, push you forward, and help you reach new horizons. Others are anchors or bollards—useful for stability, grounding, or preventing drift, but not for movement. A ship cannot sail with a bollard. Seasons change, and so do the people needed for the journey.

There are too many people who do very little to develop themselves but believe they are the best thing to have happened to the world after sliced bread. I like the account of Alexander the Great, who after returning from a fierce battle met a sleeping soldier and asked what his name was. The soldier answered 'Alexander.' Alexander the Great then said "You cannot answer Alexander and be idle. You either change your conduct or change your name". 

It's not enough to have a job, be good at it. Don't loaf around during work times. For those without a job, do something to get off the welfare list. Develop yourself because “When a beautiful or blessed woman is widowed, the elders waste no time in burying her husband.” Opportunities don’t wait. Excellence ensures you’re the one they run to. Remember Colossians 3:23.

Stay hopeful. God's got our back.

Happy Sunday!

......Just the thoughts of a certain Wey Mey